Are you fed up with debating over and over and over again about whether it’s “ok to be gay”? I am. And at the same time, I remember when that was the conversation that I…
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What Gay Porn Taught Me About Faith
It was easier to pretend that I was straight before I looked at gay porn. That’s when it all came crashing down. Before then, I could brush it off. I was just excited to make…
Fred Phelps is my hero
God hates fags. Fred Phelps and his Westboro Baptist Church turned “God hates fags” into a worldwide-recognized slogan. It is the epitome of homophobia in America. Fred Phelps is the quintessential anti-gay Christian. Fred Phelps…
What if I don’t want to be this way?
Has it been 30 days? Thank you for joining me on this journey through Tough Questions on the path to acceptance. The practice of repsonding to a prompt every day has been deeply beneficial to…
Tough Questions: Marriage & Family
What do I do if I find myself with same-gender attractions but am in an opposite-gender marriage and family? I can’t speak to today’s Tough Question directly from experience. A reader submitted this question and…
Gay & attracted to women?
I had the inklings that I was attracted to other guys for a long time. Before I even had the words for it, probably. The first time I met one of my good friends in…
Tough Question: Would it be better if I (or anyone else) weren’t this way?
This Tough Question is submitted by Stephen Ira. When I first came out as gay, my mom spent a few weeks referring to it as “[my] revelation.” It was something I did, announced, put upon…
Tough Questions: Am I Perverted?
The way we talk about sex at church, you’d think no one is having it. It’s a wonder anyone of us were ever conceived! You should spend your entire life suppressing any sexual thoughts you…
God Intended Man & Woman
A friend said to me, I mean, I know I’m gay and that’s true to who I am and isn’t going away, but I mean—in the beginning—God intended men and women to be together. It’s…
Why Queer Liberation Must Be Queer Led
“For the master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house. They may allow us temporarily to beat him at his own game, but they will never enable us to bring about genuine change.” — Audre…
Leaving without abandoning: How to engage problematic communities?
If we are going to refuse to support our own and others’ oppression, how do we leave and cease to cooperate with anti-queer (and racist, transphobic, and other oppressive) forces without abandoning both the oppressed…