Queer – Brian Gerald Murphy

Do I have to be an activist?

First, a meditation. A Litany For Survival For those of us who live at the shoreline standing upon the constant edges of decision crucial and alone for those of us who cannot indulge the passing dreams of choice who love in doorways coming and going in the hours between dawns looking inward and outward at […]

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Tough Questions: Can I Have A Family?

It’s 10:00 PM and my evening is winding down. I pick up my MacBook Air, my journal, and the book I’m reading (The Wisdom of No Escape). I’m not sure what my plan is: to read? To journal? To type? The light from the fire/heater against a comfy chair catches my eye. I sit in […]

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Tough Questions: Will I Be Healthy?

This Dispatch is part of the Tough Questions series. You can sign-up for Free Daily Dispatches to receive them all. Gay people get AIDS and die. Did anyone ever say it to me those exact words to me? Probably not. That is what the culture told me. Homosexuals are promiscuous, gay men get all sorts of STDs, gay people […]

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Tough Questions: Am I A Real Man

This Dispatch is part of the Tough Questions series. You can sign-up for Free Daily Dispatches to receive them all. My grandfather played semi-professional, my father was a varsity kicker before sustaining an injury that ended his ability to compete. My cousins played basketball, baseball, football. I was in Boy Scouts and had a chemistry […]

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Tough Question: Can I Be Cool and Gay?

Sure, I want to know what God’s intention is and what the Bible says and what my family will think. Of course. But there’s more to it, for me at least. Anti-establishment type as I might be, I want to be cool. Liked. Sexy. Popular. When I was growing up and coming into a realization […]

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Is this a faggot party? (or, Will I be uncomfortable, & Will I survive?)

This Dispatch is part of the Tough Questions series. “What is this a faggot party? Y’all a bunch of faggots. I wish I had an oozie, man I wish I had an oozie. You mess with God, you mess with me. Man, I wish I had an oozie.” A man yelled at a group of […]

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What Will My Friends Think?

This is the second prompt in Tough Questions On The Road To Affirmation: What Will My Friends Think? My friends’ opinions are right up there with my parents. I began realizing that I liked guys in middle school. A time when when friends are everything. Many of my friends were from the Evangelical Presbyterian Church […]

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What Will My Parents Think?

This is the first prompt in Tough Questions On The Road To Affirmation: What Will My Parents Think? As I journeyed to self-acceptance as a queer person, this question weighed heavy. Here, I respond to that Question. Would you consider responding to this prompt too? Post it to your website, Facebook, or Tumblr. Start a […]

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Privilege, Perspective, and Language

That’s so gay! It’s not usually intended to be an insult to gay people. “I don’t mean it like that! I just mean, you know, it’s stupid.” Right. You don’t say “that’s so straight!” though. “That’s so gay” only works as an insult in a worldview where being gay is insulting. GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian, Straight […]

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Saving Queer Lives: Half A Loaf is Not Enough

A good friend of mine, Haven Herrin, once said in response Christian college administrators offering conditional conversation (not even conditional acceptance): “What you are telling me is that because I am gay you will offer me half a loaf and because I am gay, I should take it. I don’t want half a loaf.” I […]

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