Stronger, Safer and Sexier Relationships Without Shame, Scarcity, or “Should”s
Ever worry you’ll be having the same exact emotional conversation with your partner a year from now?
Do you want to have more sex–and hotter sex?
Are you scared that if you ask for what you really want in your relationship too soon, it’ll keep you from ever getting it?
Have you been pushing right up to the line of what’s “allowed” in your relationship (and maybe even dipped a toe over once)?
Do you worry that a sexually exciting or nonmonogamous relationship might be incompatible with a meaningful marriage and fulfilling family life?
Are you nervous about what your friends and family might think if they knew you were considering opening up (or opening up even more)?
Ever wish there was something you could say to make your partner understand just how much you really care about this relationship?
If so, then imagine if…
you could leave conversations about sensitive subjects feeling safer and more secure rather than worn down and worried?
you could feel more comfortable in your body and desires—no matter how you looked or how turned on you were in the moment
you could actually kiss all those cuties you’ve been flirting with on Instagram and Snapchat
you never had to worry about stepping over a line or setting off your partner because you knew for sure you were on the same page
you could have sexual experiences that were meaningful, even if they were casual, and that you felt fulfilled rather than empty after
you felt confident in a shared vision for the future with your partner and aligned on what is most important to you both
Meet Your Guide to a Right-Fit Relationship and Satisfying Sex Life
Proven frameworks and expert guidance to create more security and connection while opening the door for future possibilities in a way that feels safe and committed
Through Relationshift Private Coaching, you’ll learn
- Communication skills for turning conflict into collaboration
- Embodied Exercises – Get (back) in touch with your body and your desires
- Emotional Insight & Regulation – sit with uncomfortable feelings like jealousy, fear, and insecurity and use them to grow and strengthen you’ relationship (rather than ignoring them or allowing them to sabotage your relationship)
- Interrupt Frustrating Patterns – come up with “micro-scripts” to help you get out of conversations that are spiraling out of control and to make it easier to address touchy topics (like hooking up, sex, jealousy, or insecurity)
- Relationship Rituals so you feel more connected, joyful, passionate and so that each day is easier and less stressful
Overhead from clients…
“I was able to evaluate my relationship under quite an intense lens. I now better understand what love actually is. I found places that I had work to do on myself re: giving and receiving love. That all gave me a whole new attitude / excitement / determination to make my relationship work on our terms. I can now articulate my sexual interests more confidently and have a broader sense of what I’m wanting. Been able to discuss it more freely with the bf and even friends. There’s a confidence about the possibilities and who I am sexually.”
– Nic, Hong Kong
“I wanted some guidance. I didn’t necessarily want a psych who gives you the space to work things out – I needed more clarity than that. I was really fortunate that I had you because that assurance that ‘Your body is good, your desires are good,’ meant that I had an internal safety net knowing what I’m exploring is perfectly okay. I’m not a bad person.”
– Craig, Australia
“I already felt a lot lighter after our first call last week. The fear of having to figure it all out alone is lifted.”
– Melissa, New York
“My heart is full. I have a couple of really great connections I’ve been able to make this week. The energy that we were able to start through our work together is abundantly multiplied in some really special ways.”
– Scott, Illinois
“You were incredible in facilitating. I remember during our first or second session, there were things I had been trying to talk to [my partner] about for months and he just started talking. You did that within just two sessions. That was incredible. We came to you at one of our lowest points and after working with you, I would say we are at one our strongest points ever and that’s in large part to you.”
– Matt R.
“Coaching isn’t going to make any argument or disagreement go away—I don’t think you can live with someone and not hit heads sometimes—but it’s how you deal with it that matters. And we now have the ability to deal with those that we didn’t before”
– Dylan O.
With Relationshift Coaching, you’re supported in multiple different ways
- 3 months of unlimited coaching via text & voice messaging — it’s like a coach in your pocket, available whenever you need extra support.
- 12 weekly coaching sessions to dive deep on your challenges and goals, make clear simple plans for progress, and overcome obstacles that have held you back
- Sync & Shift Session Trainings – short video + guided workbook to strengthen and your relationship in 15 minutes a week and 2 hours a month.
- Conversation Starters & Stoppers Workbook – a collection of micro-scripts you can use with your partner to initiate conversations that make you nervous and to interrupt ones that are spiraling out of control
- Resource and training library – focused actionable trainings you can do by yourself or with a partner such as managing jealousy, making a plan for opening your relationship, adding more emotional intimacy, handling conflict with greater ease, adding excitement back into your daily and weekly routines.
You’ll have a transformative experience whether you work with me solo or together as a couple (or triad). If both partners are looking for additional support and want to do intentional work together, join as a unit. If you would like to have a coach that is solely focused on supporting you as you navigate your relationship(s), you can join as an individual.
Talking is part of the change-making process but by itself, it’s not enough. In order for things to be different, you’ll need to start taking different action. Couples stall in making progress toward their relationship goals when they stay stuck “processing.” Through coaching, you’ll learn the exact right (simple, manageable) next steps to take and you’ll get accountability to make sure you take action to make the changes you want in a way that feels safe and supported.
Therapy is provided by a licensed healthcare professional, usually focusing on specific mental health conditions. Sex and relationship coaching is client-centered work focused on supporting specific life changes. They are both incredibly valuable and have different scopes. Many of my clients work with a therapist in addition to me (in fact, many clients are referred to me by their therapist). If you find yourself in need of support that falls under therapy rather than coaching, I will support you in finding an appropriate provider.
If you’re worried that you’ve got too much going on, that your relationship is not on steady ground, or that there is some other obstacle holding you back, that’s actually the most important time to get support. Coaching will help take things off your plate, not add to them. It will make your relationship less stressful, conversations easier, and life simpler. I’ve never had a client say “I wish I’d waited” but I have had many say “I wish I’d started sooner.
I’m Brian G. Murphy!
I’ve coached over 100 individuals and couples to build right-fit relationships and sizzling sex lives without shame or shoulds. You’re unique and so is my approach, there are no one-size-fits-all solutions here. I tailor my support to you so that your relationship is exactly right for you.
Sometimes relationships really do need to end and that doesn’t mean it’s a failure but I am proud to say that 98% not only stay together after working with me but report even greater relationship satisfaction than when they started.
I am certified through WCI which is accredited by the International Coaching Federation. I’m obsessed with helping people experience even more expansiveness in their relationships of all kinds. To make sure you’re always getting sharp support,I’ve taken continuing education with The Gottman Institute and Ester Perel and I regularly consult with colleagues who are coaches and therapists.
I teach you to have smoother communication, easier and hotter sex, more passion, greater intimacy, less worry and jealousy, and most importantly: more fun.
Ready to get started?
Apply here for a complimentary “next steps” call. You’ll share more about your life and relationships, the challenges you’re facing, and the shifts you’re hoping to make. Based on that, I’ll come up with a 3-part actionable plan for you and if we’re a good fit to work together, I’ll share more about how I can support you in building a relationship with yourself and others that feels right-fit to you.
Have questions before applying? Drop me an email to [email protected] or Instagram DM at @thisisbgm (voice notes welcome!)