What Does The Bible Say? (Is it a sin to be gay?) - Brian Gerald Murphy

What Does The Bible Say? (Is it a sin to be gay?)

I will not comment on the following passages (at least not today),

I will not formulate thoughts and paragraphs and well-articulated explanations of why those passages don’t say what you’ve been told they said. It’s been done before. Read Jesus, the Bible, and Homosexuality by Jack Rogers; What The Bible Says–and Doesn’t Say by Mel White; or Would Jesus Discriminate by Cindi Love. I will not put living my life on hold for one minute longer to tread water defending my own humanity while those who wield power only pretend to listen.


When I was in 7th grade (or was it 8th?) grade, I flipped my NIV Teen Study to the index, thumbed to the page where H was located, and scanned down the list of topics.






Holy Land


There it was. I looked to my door. Was anyone coming? If I flipped to that page, would someone know? Would opening the Bible to those verse inherently change something about me?

Heart racing, I turned to the page noted.

In teen study Bibles, the index doesn’t actually lead you to verses, but rather to commentary in pull-quote-type boxes and brackets. Sometimes with illustrations. This particular page told me that homosexuality was a sin, citing Leviticus 18:22. I read the verse.

Do not have sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman; that is detestable.


Does it really mean that? It must mean something else? Whoever edited this Bible sure thought that’s what it meant. And that scared me. They are talking about me. Not some abstract theoretical homosexual, me!


I spent the next decade searching for answers in the Bible. I read countless books, articles, and sermons. I spent many nights in prayer or discussion. All to answer “What does the Bible say?”

For those of us that take the Bible as a guidebook for living, that question is an important one. What does it say?

It says many things, sometimes contradictory things.

There was a time in my life when “What does the Bible say (about homosexuality)?” was the most important question in my life. Now? It doesn’t matter. I have found a peace and security in myself much deeper than I ever hoped. Before, I was looking to the Bible to validate me. Now, I know that I am a good and just person and that my sexuality is wonderful. Funny thing, I happen to think the Bible says the same thing.

I’m not so worried about what the Bible says anymore. And that’s OK.

Tough Questions

This is part of December’s series on Tough Questions on the path to affirmation. You can subscribe to receive the daily prompts. You’re invited to respond to each prompt (publicly, on your blog or social network; or privately in a journal, 750words.com, or in an email to me [or someone else]).