When it comes to feelings, we’re getting two seemingly conflicting messages: “Feelings are not facts” and “Your feelings are valid” So which one is it? “My partner doesn’t respect my feelings” is a complaint I…
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What makes you desirable
Whether you’re dating or in a long-term relationship, how do you develop that spark that makes you irresistible?
Gay Dating During COVID-19
As you most certainly know, we are in the midst of a pandemic that hase changed everything about the way that we go about our day-to-day lives. Sex, dating and relationships are part of that…
Gay Dating Advice: Should You Send Nudes?
My answers usually: you do you, boo. While I stand by that, I want to dive into the whether, when, and the how of sending nudes.
Open Relationship Best Practices
Last week, I answered a viewer question and talked about ways to handle transitioning from time spent with one boyfriend to time spent with another video. In THIS video, I’m gonna answer a related question…
Sex vs Love in Open Relationships
What’s the difference between sex and love? And, can you have one without the other?
Needs vs Tactics
Sometimes will use their “needs” to manipulate people. If someone NEEDS something how can you say no? Here’s the difference between a need and tactic and why it matters:
What is a boundary?
Is your boyfriend doing something that they don’t like and they can’t get him to stop. Friends and clients will often ask “How can I set and enforce a boundary to make my boyfriend do…
Being in love with someone who doesn’t love you back
Being in love is a helluva drug. I like being in love and I’m sure you do too. And I can remember sooooo many times when I was pining after a guy who just wasn’t…
The Importance of Queer Friendship
After a week on Fire Island in the Fire Island Pines with my NYC queer family, I’m thinking about the importance of queer friendship — especially for gay men. I just got back from a…
When & How to talk about STIs
When it comes to hooking up and STDs, some ways of talking about it are more better than others, but I think even asking when your prospective playmate was lasted tested isn’t the most helpful….