Last week, I answered a viewer question and talked about ways to handle transitioning from time spent with one boyfriend to time spent with another video. In THIS video, I’m gonna answer a related question…
Gay Relationship Advice | Dating, Monogamous, Open & Polyamorous
Sex vs Love in Open Relationships
What’s the difference between sex and love? And, can you have one without the other?
Needs vs Tactics
Sometimes will use their “needs” to manipulate people. If someone NEEDS something how can you say no? Here’s the difference between a need and tactic and why it matters:
What is a boundary?
Is your boyfriend doing something that they don’t like and they can’t get him to stop. Friends and clients will often ask “How can I set and enforce a boundary to make my boyfriend do…
Being in love with someone who doesn’t love you back
Being in love is a helluva drug. I like being in love and I’m sure you do too. And I can remember sooooo many times when I was pining after a guy who just wasn’t…
The Importance of Queer Friendship
After a week on Fire Island in the Fire Island Pines with my NYC queer family, I’m thinking about the importance of queer friendship — especially for gay men. I just got back from a…
When & How to talk about STIs
When it comes to hooking up and STDs, some ways of talking about it are more better than others, but I think even asking when your prospective playmate was lasted tested isn’t the most helpful….
4 Reasons to NOT Open Your Relationship
Deciding whether or not to open your relationship is a big and important decision. While there are lots of good reasons to open your relationship, there are also some reasons why you SHOULDN’T open your relationship.
A Brief History of Gay Cruising
These days lots of gay guys are using Grindr for hooking up. But we didn’t always have sex available at our fingertips. For centuries (or longer!) gay and bi guys have found ways to connect with each other, even when doing so was illegal. Most of us don’t come from queer families and so we don’t learn our LGBTQ history at home. So, I set out to uncover the ways that gay and bisexual guys have met each other for friendship and sex.
In defense of casual gay sex…
I get messages from guys pretty regularly asking some variation of “is it ok to have casual sex?” “I really like hooking up, is that ok?” “I have sex with my friends, is that normal?”…
My Relationship Communication Mistakes
No matter how much you read, watch, and practice communicating well with your boyfriend, sometimes you’re going to mess up. In this video, I share my gay relationship communication mistakes so that you can learn from me and hopefully not make the same mistakes yourself.